In my humble opinion, this is a terrible, horrible, ridiculously self-defeating strategy for getting laid. It results in far too much self-edited performance, preconceptions, and assumptions. All of this adds up to one thing for me: Creating opportunities for chance and serendipity is more likely to result in a good night of fun than trying to control the situation ever will. Or, to put it more simply: OKCupid gets me data; Craigslist gets me laid. So how do you do it?
The same way you land a good job: You put yourself out there and post an ad. Not the posts that you want to respond to. Your odds of getting laid through that route are way too slim. Read the posts by people who are kinda similar to you and are already asking for what you want. Draft an ad that sets you apart. The writing quality in Craiglist ads varies wildly, so start with clean grammar and a writing style that shows a bit of personality.
Take your time, and get each word exactly right. You need to mention…. Keep each of these points brief and deliberate. You can get into the rest of it over pillow talk. Craigslist will walk you through the process. Just make sure you put it in the right section perhaps Casual Encounters: Go do something productive for twenty minutes, like make dinner. You took the time to be different and interesting in your post; the least they can do is acknowledge something special in their response to you.
This may be a small percentage of your total responses. Just focus on these emails. Are they comfortable speaking openly? Do they seem to speak your language? Hopefully, after two or three hours of collecting replies, at least one email has you intrigued.
If none of them look interesting yet, check back tomorrow. Take the same care in your reply as you took in your original post. Acknowledge some of the details they shared, share a few more details of your own including your first name and a photo, if it feels right , and end with a flirtatious question that will keep the conversation going. Once they get back to you, you should have enough details to trust your gut on whether this is a good idea.
If it is, make a date. Plan a safe call! Well, this is the vast possibility and danger of Craigslist. For decades, it's been the place where someone might find the perfect or most horrible roommate; a steal of a couch or total piece of junk; casual sex or even a spouse.
The public nature of dating apps can make it harder to be forthcoming about just wanting sex, if that's what you're after. One of my oldest childhood friends, for example, posted a Craigslist ad back in the mids and met her husband. Now they're expecting their second child! But answer the wrong ad, and there's a risk of being raped, murdered or falling into a sex-trafficking ring.
As these ads go offline, we spoke to a year-old man in New York who used Craigslist's personal ads - specifically the casual encounters section - as a way of finding casual sex in his early 20s. He spoke to us on condition of anonymity, because, well, that's what Craigslist personals were all about.
It's part of what made them successful, he thinks. Unlike dating apps that often require being linked to a social media account, on Craigslist you could be nameless and Facebook-less. There's less stigma now about using dating sites or apps, but some people prefer to be anonymous. And sometimes he didn't even get to see what they looked like.
He estimates that he would answer hundreds of ads, which might net about 10 replies, which might then lead to one in-person interaction. That's a LOT of email. But the encounters were memorable.
In one encounter, a woman insisted on having porn blasting the entire time. Another made him put on a blindfold the moment he arrived. He's not happy with Craigslist's decision, even though he's not using the platform anymore. He has a girlfriend now... Do they seem to speak your language? It built its momentum. Much dumber people than you and I have figured out how to do this, so I'm going to focus on how not to make horrible mistakes while using this Hopefully, after two or three hours of collecting replies, at least one email has you intrigued. Take the same care in your reply as you took in your original post. Couple, friends were killed in crash that claimed seven lives 'Hero' student smashes glass to get people to safety following Auckland bus crash Smell and sewage discharge on West Coast beach angers neighbours.